Have you ever caught yourself saying things like:
“I’m so unlucky.”
“There’s no way I can do this.”
“I’m broke.”
You’re not alone.
I used to say stuff like this all the time—especially back when I worked in finance.
The office culture was all about eliminating mistakes, which felt more like disinfecting your spirit with industrial-strength bleach.
So naturally, thoughts like “I’ll mess up again,” “I’m hopeless,” or “Why is it always me?” would play on repeat in my head.
But everything changed when I hit rock bottom in my 40s and started with a “blank slate.”
That’s when I realized the power of words.
The world doesn’t change—but the words you use can change the way you see it.
And that shift in perspective can begin to attract an entirely new reality.
So today, I’d love to share what I call the “alchemy of words,” based on my own journey.
🧠 Your Brain Understands the World Through Language
First things first: your brain perceives reality through the words you use.
Take this example—a glass filled halfway with water.
Do you say:
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“It’s already half empty”?
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“It’s still half full”?
Both describe the same thing—but your brain interprets them very differently.
The first signals lack, the second signals abundance.
And your brain will start filtering your reality accordingly.
💸 Reframing “Money Worries” into Empowering Language
When I left my finance job and became a stay-at-home parent, I had very little money.
And I realized something: the more I repeated “I have no money,” the more that version of reality seemed to grow.
Here are some of the linguistic shifts that changed everything for me:
| ❌ Negative Phrase | ✅ Empowering Reframe |
|---|---|
| “I’m broke.” | “I use money wisely.” |
| “I’m poor.” | “I’m living a simple life.” |
| “I can’t afford it.” | “I choose what’s truly important.” |
| “My salary is too low.” | “I’m discovering value beyond money.” |
| “I’m in debt.” | “I’m investing in my growth.” |
| “Loan payments are hard.” | “I’m building future assets.” |
| “I have to save.” | “I’m learning smart money habits.” |
| “I’m short on cash.” | “It’s a chance to get creative.” |
| “It’s too expensive.” | “I’m waiting for the right timing.” |
| “I can’t cover living costs.” | “I’m seeing what truly matters.” |
By shifting my words, the same situation started to feel like a learning experience instead of a struggle.
😫 Turning Failure into Fuel: Reframing Defeatist Thinking
When I started learning programming in my 40s, it was one challenge after another.
Thoughts like:
“I’ve failed again.”
“I have no talent.”
“I knew this wouldn’t work.”
But I started changing my words—and something shifted.
I began seeing setbacks as part of my growth.
| ❌ Negative Phrase | ✅ Empowering Reframe |
|---|---|
| “I failed.” | “I gathered valuable data.” |
| “I have no talent.” | “I’ve got room to grow.” |
| “It’s hopeless.” | “Time to try a new approach.” |
| “It’s not working.” | “I’m still exploring what works best.” |
| “I gave up.” | “It was a sign to pivot.” |
| “I made a mistake.” | “I got one step closer to the answer.” |
| “No sense of style.” | “I’m finding my unique way.” |
| “I can’t remember this.” | “I’ll understand it deeply, slowly.” |
| “I’m not improving.” | “I’m solidifying the basics.” |
| “It’s just not for me.” | “I’m discovering new possibilities.” |
| “I’m embarrassed.” | “This is proof I’m growing.” |
| “I’m a beginner.” | “I have a fresh perspective.” |
🤝 Healing Relationships Through Language
During my corporate years, I often said things like:
“That person is so annoying.”
“Everyone’s out to get me.”
But these phrases created more friction and drew in more negativity.
Here’s how I shifted my inner narrative:
| ❌ Negative Phrase | ✅ Empowering Reframe |
|---|---|
| “They piss me off.” | “I have something to learn from them.” |
| “Everyone’s against me.” | “We just haven’t understood each other yet.” |
| “People hate me.” | “It’s a chance to show my true self.” |
| “I’m lonely.” | “I have time to connect with myself.” |
| “I’m misunderstood.” | “I have a unique voice.” |
| “No friends.” | “I’m preparing for meaningful relationships.” |
| “I’m being bullied.” | “I’m gaining resilience.” |
| “I’m being ignored.” | “I’m learning to stand in my truth.” |
| “I’m being criticized.” | “I’m receiving growth feedback.” |
| “My boss is terrible.” | “I’m learning about leadership.” |
| “My colleagues are cold.” | “I can offer warmth instead.” |
| “I clash with my family.” | “We’re practicing mutual respect.” |
🌟 Turning Future Anxiety into Possibility
In your 40s, thoughts like these become more common:
“I’m getting too old.”
“It’s too late.”
“I’m scared of what’s coming.”
But again, it’s all in the language:
| ❌ Negative Phrase | ✅ Empowering Reframe |
|---|---|
| “I’m getting old.” | “I’ve gained so much experience.” |
| “It’s too late.” | “This is the perfect timing.” |
| “I’m worried about the future.” | “Endless possibilities are ahead.” |
| “I have no time.” | “I’ll make focused progress.” |
| “Can’t keep up with change.” | “I’m making new discoveries.” |
| “Worried about aging.” | “I’m maturing within.” |
| “I’ve lost stamina.” | “I’m becoming more efficient.” |
| “Bad memory.” | “I remember what truly matters.” |
| “Young people outpace me.” | “I bring deep experience to the table.” |
| “Can’t learn new things.” | “I’m deepening what I already know.” |
| “Tech is too fast.” | “I cherish being human.” |
| “Scared of being laid off.” | “A new career path may be opening.” |
💪 Reframing Health & Energy
As we age, health concerns grow. But here’s how I started seeing things differently:
| ❌ Negative Phrase | ✅ Empowering Reframe |
|---|---|
| “I get tired easily.” | “I understand the importance of rest.” |
| “I got sick.” | “My body is sending me a message.” |
| “I gained weight.” | “It’s time to refocus on health.” |
| “Can’t sleep.” | “I have quiet time to reflect.” |
| “So stressed.” | “I’m being challenged to grow.” |
| “Headache again.” | “My body is asking for rest.” |
| “No motivation.” | “I’m storing up energy.” |
| “Can’t focus.” | “It’s a signal to listen within.” |
🏢 Work & Career Reframes for the 40-Something Crowd
If work has lost its spark, try reframing like this:
| ❌ Negative Phrase | ✅ Empowering Reframe |
|---|---|
| “My job is boring.” | “I’m seeking new possibilities.” |
| “No promotion.” | “I’m mastering my current role.” |
| “No sense of purpose.” | “I’m discovering what truly matters.” |
| “I want to quit.” | “I’m exploring a better fit.” |
| “I hate my company.” | “I’m clarifying my ideal work environment.” |
| “Too much overtime.” | “I’m learning how to streamline.” |
| “No recognition.” | “I’m rediscovering my own value.” |
| “My team won’t listen.” | “I’m learning a new way to lead.” |
📱 Making Positive Words a Daily Practice
That’s why I created GAMBO—an app designed to help you set daily intentions using positive, empowering language.
Especially through our “17-second” and “68-second” visualization practices, you can learn to pause, reframe your thoughts, and feed your subconscious mind with uplifting ideas.
🔄 How Language Actually Changes Reality
Why does changing your words work so well?
Because:
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It shifts your thinking patterns
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It changes how you feel
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That leads to different actions
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Your energy (or “frequency”) rises
It’s a ripple effect that reshapes the world around you.
✅ In Summary
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Your brain sees reality through language
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Same situation, different words = different emotions
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Simple phrases like “I’m broke” → “I value money” can change everything
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Even failure becomes data when your words shift
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Words shape relationships, career paths, and even aging
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Daily practice builds positive language habits
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Thought → Emotion → Action → Reality: it starts with your words
Changing your words is the first step toward changing your life.
So next time a negative thought pops up, pause and ask:
“What would be the positive version of this?”
Start there—and see how your reality begins to shift. 😊
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